Infidelity, How to Quit

Infidelity does not ENDS WITH THE DISCOVERY AND FORGIVENESS the infidel.

We thought if we were unfaithful to your partner then send him to fly very far. But when you discover the betrayal are less than 10% of people will definitely ask for a break.

Why?

Infidelity as I mentioned in other articles is the most complex problem in the couple, both in solution and in the side effects leading to all involved.

Infidelity is found today in order for the messages of text, Facebook, social networks and less frequently by seeing your partner with someone else.

He or she is confronted by his unfaithful partner and denies it is not the first time he has been confronted, and that infidelity is in the air, you feel, you can not point out exactly what is happening but you know something is wrong and begin to see changes in the pair as:

More time on the computadoraMenos casaSalidas time on weekends for trabajoCambio in habits and form of the cell vestirTener momentoRecibir them at all or make calls to cell constant habitualesNerviosismo odd hours need to be in another ladoDistracción and little attention to the couple , among others.

When finally betrayed or have hard evidence of infidelity, find it a relief to be able to name all that desosiego and uncertainty that had been receiving.

The unfaithful or deny, to deny the evidence showing more momentum homebound bothersome, call crazy betrayed (a). To spend hours or days or unfaithful finally accept the facts and explain who was in some cases. I say who it was because they ensure that the relationship is over it was a momentary thing, swear they will not happen again and not know why they betrayed.

Some are cynical and actually follow the relationship, other media and many others apologize kneel and appear truly repentant (as).

The betrayed (a) becomes very painful, crying, sadness, through denial, can not believe you are in that situation, think this would not happen in our relationship.

He or she asks the unfaithful betrayed the detailed explanation of infidelity, usually the infidel or continues to maintain that it was important, and proposes to leave it behind.

The betrayed not remove your finger from the line until you know all the details that has finally unfaithful, and even knowing all the details or betrayed the choice remains with the unfaithful partner.

Would we like to torture us, what happens?

This is when we all thought that would not forgive an infidelity and the relationship would end as soon as possible. But to reach that point so traumatic he or betrayed (a) continue with the relationship because:

He thinks maybe if he is repentant (a) You want to postpone the pain of separation, are already suffering enough to get fuel to fuego.Son many years invested in the relationship is worth fighting to save the fear pareja.Tiene the loneliness and fear of not finding someone to love them so much.

As betrayed kicking, scream, throw things, we express our great anger and frustration toward the partner was unfaithful to us but we finally settled AH?.

It serves to express the dissatisfaction if not accompanied by actions, words with the wind. Like him or cheating but say they are sorry to say that underlying action because the betrayed not ask for anything to change.

How to get out of infidelity?

Infidelity does not ENDS WITH THE DISCOVERY AND FORGIVENESS the infidel.

I mean, how not to get into a pattern of continuous pain and possible subsequent infidelities. The power it has betrayed the most affected have the cards in their hands.

The unfaithful or is in the best of both positions because he has not suffered the disappointment or deception may be very sorry indeed (a) of what happened and says that at least he wanted was to make us suffer.

If this was not his desire, then infidelity should not be in their plans EVER.

We were all present opportunities to be unfaithful, being attractive to someone else, but some say and not others, and that's where it enters the commitment we have with the other couple.

Although we have many problems with the couple, honest is to terminate this relationship to start another, infidelity is a coward out a permanent problem.

And it's not simply condemn anyone suggest that each person takes responsibility for his actions, if it was because you were unfaithful so decide.

He or she is the one that betrayed desires not to suffer and recover, the unfaithful or not this suffering, so I suggest as betrayed act and not just talk.

What actions support the pain?

If only mourn and express our anger in words but actions do not ask the infidel or unconsciously assumes responsibility know that we are allowing exposing infidelity to infidelity continues or another.

Some actions that suggest are:

End this relationship means no longer having contact with your partner if you live this mean that you immediately.

Then when you find your partner (return to want to heal the relationship) if you want access to the following conditions:

Ask him to end the relationship with the other person and bring evidence that this esDile who will go to couples therapy so you can determine if you want to continue that relationship, give him a second chance but not living together or having contact to recover trust.

If today you are the betrayed or likely to consider such drastic measures, but I assure you if you forgive and ask for nothing in return you will be empty handed and with much suffering.

Think and act!

White Psychotherapist Almeida Dingler

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